Read I. Dr. Hey You: Why is my Marriage having Problems?
Hello! It’s Doctor Hey You again. I just received a call from one of my clients and they got a question for me:
Client: ‘how can I choose my marriage partner?’.
Dr. Hey You: Well, it’s so simple as long as you pay attention to what I’m about to tell you. You ready?
Client: Yup!
Dr. Hey You: choice always comes down to one thing. ‘NEED’. You need it, you choose it. You don’t need it, you don’t choose it. Why need? Because need represents all gaps that must be filled, all missing pieces that must be found, all questions that must be answered, all weaknesses that must be strengthened, all desires that must be satisfied, all wishes and dreams that must come true, all pain that must be healed, all anger that must be quelled, all insecurities that must be overcame, all confusion that must be clarified, all fear that must be challenged, all vulnerabilities that must be protected, all ignorance that must be enlightened and every part of you that must be sustained. All that = NEED.
Client: Thanks but how does need help me find the right marriage partner for me?
Dr. Hey You: Good question. I’ll tell you how but first I’m going to ask you a couple of questions.
Client: Okay.
Dr. Hey You: Imagine you are a fish and you want to get married. What animal would you choose as your partner?
Client: Well, I think I’d choose another fish.
Dr. Hey You: exactly! you’d choose another fish because no matter how much a lion is popular, big, strong and fierce you wouldn’t be able to walk with it on land and neither would the lion be able to swim with you in the ocean. Being a fish you need water to survive, to play, to be happy, to eat and enjoy. Therefore your partner would be someone who can keep you in water, play with you in water, sleep with you in water, dance with you in water, work with you in water, learn and grow with you in water, do business with you in water, make love with you in water, have children with you in water, etc.
Client; wow!
Dr. Hey You: How about if you were a chicken. Who would you choose as your marriage partner?
Client: Definitely a Rooster.
Dr. Hey You: Brilliant! You’d choose another chicken because survival and thriving of both of you is much easier when you share the same feathers. However much a chicken may admire an eagle, it cannot marry an eagle because eagles are masters of the sky while chicken have mastered the ground. All needs(biological, psychological, digestive, emotional, physiological, nutritional, etc.) of a chicken require it to stay on the ground and in the company of fellow chicken. The Rooster on the other hand is naturally aware of the needs of a chicken and it is naturally capable of satisfying them.
Client: Amazing! So I just have to identify my needs and then look for a marriage partner who can satisfy them.
Dr. Hey You: Yes! Your partner must above all else understand your needs, they must not have any traits or behavior that may affect your needs and they must be interested and willing to satisfy your needs.
Client: Thank you Dr.
Dr. Hey You: You’re welcome. Before I hang up, there’s something serious I want you to always remember as you sail off on your quest for a marriage partner; All people have needs and sometimes very different needs. But the secret is in this proverb; ‘birds of the same feathers flock together’. In human terms, I’m talking about complimentary traits, character, personality, beliefs, psychology, emotion, physiology, biology, work, purpose and wishes, etc. in one word ‘NEEDS’.
Client: Thank you Dr. Hey You. I’ll call you back some other time.
Dr. Hey You: Okay. Bye.
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