You can’t say ‘as long as I’ve it in me it’s okay. Wrong. If you have it in you, why then don’t you express it? Tell you what, expressing equals sharing. So, if you can’t express it, it means you can’t give it. Surely, how can you pour from an empty cup? Now the question remains, ‘why can’t you share it?’. Therefore, the only sensible reason you can’t express love is that you don’t have it, to begin with. Don’t tell me you’re saving it for later! That is more cynical.
Love is Considerate
You can’t keep saying things that affect the other person or others and claim to love them at the same time. Nor can you keep doing things that affect the other person or others and still claim to love them. Such claims are hypocritical.
Love takes the other person’s feelings and interests into consideration. If you truly love someone or others, before you say anything or do something, you first ask yourself, ‘is what I’m about to say, good for them?‘ ‘is what I’m about to do good for them?‘ When the answer is an obvious no, then this is the time love steps in and stops you from saying or doing those things that may harm the other person or others.
But if on the contrary, you never care about how the other person or others are affected by your words and actions as long as your interests are served, then my friend you are a villain, not a hero. You got no love at all. You’re quite a monster.
You’ll know it is love when in every situation, as you pursue victory moments, you make sure the other person or others are not losing either. Otherwise, you’re merely a con artist. A skilled one too.
Love is Liberating
Since the dawn of time, the slave, the oppressed, the colonized, and the general victim is saved by love — never by the mighty freedom fighter. Because deep down, the freedom fighter, above all else, is inspired by nothing else but love. Therefore, love is what truly sets people free. Allow the other person or people to spread their wings and soar to their greatest potential, emotion, feeling, and mood.
Love is Productive
The absence of growth means there’s an insufficiency of the expression of love. If you love a person or people, you pave the way for their path. You wish them success — more so, you support their endeavors and good causes.
Love must translate into shared opportunities, win-win situations, and beneficial ideas. If your clients love, they’ll buy from you, and using word-of-mouth, they’ll advertise for you. Equally, if you love your clients, you’ll not cheat them and will always try to give them the right information to guide their purchase decisions. If your friends love you, they’ll approach you with inspirational and productive ideas, they’ll present you with business opportunities, and volunteer to support you whenever it is needed. On the flip side, you must do exactly the same for your friends.
Look into your relationships, all of them, if the aspect of productivity and genuine benefit is lacking, something is not right about that professed love. If you don’t do much to support the other person or other people to become wealthy and healthy, then you don’t love them that much. On the same note, if the other person or other people are not doing the same for you, they also don’t love you that much.
more to follow…